The Art of Becoming

Reflections on Relationships, Healing, and Change

Why Feedback Feels Like Rejection (Even When Someone Is Trying to Help)
Relationships, Communication, Feedback River Phoenix Relationships, Communication, Feedback River Phoenix

Why Feedback Feels Like Rejection (Even When Someone Is Trying to Help)

If you've ever wondered why you get defensive, take criticism personally, or feel attacked when someone is trying to help, the answer may have less to do with the feedback itself and more to do with what your nervous system learned long ago. Here's how to tell the difference between criticism, shame, and feedback that can help you grow.

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Are You a Client or a Visitor? The Lesson That Changed the Way I Practice Therapy
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Are You a Client or a Visitor? The Lesson That Changed the Way I Practice Therapy

Many people attend therapy. Far fewer actively participate in change. In this powerful exploration of the difference between a "visitor" and a "client," therapist River Phoenix shares one of the most important lessons she learned from mentor Dr. Douglas Fountain—and why the key to transformation isn't intelligence, insight, or motivation. It's participation.

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