The Art of Becoming
Reflections on Relationships, Healing, and Change
Life Is About Adaptation: A Lesson I Learned From a 90-Year-Old Woman
hirty years ago, a 90-year-old woman named Rose shared a simple piece of wisdom that has stayed with me ever since: "Life is about adaptation." In this article, I explore what Rose taught me about resilience, psychological flexibility, Taoist philosophy, life transitions, and how learning to adapt to change may be one of the most important skills for emotional well-being and personal growth.
Why Do I Beat Myself Up Every Time I Make a Mistake?
Why do some mistakes linger for days while others seem impossible to let go? If you find yourself replaying conversations, obsessing over feedback, or beating yourself up after getting something wrong, you may be confusing accountability with shame. Learn how to take responsibility, repair what needs repairing, and grow without losing yourself in self-criticism.
Are You a Client or a Visitor? The Lesson That Changed the Way I Practice Therapy
Many people attend therapy. Far fewer actively participate in change. In this powerful exploration of the difference between a "visitor" and a "client," therapist River Phoenix shares one of the most important lessons she learned from mentor Dr. Douglas Fountain—and why the key to transformation isn't intelligence, insight, or motivation. It's participation.
How to Stay Sane in a Crazy World: Finding Our Way Back to Each Other
In a world filled with uncertainty, fear, and division, reconnecting with our shared humanity is more important than ever. Finding strength in difficult times, prioritizing self-care, and choosing compassion over fear can help us navigate the chaos. Together, we can heal, grow, and create a kinder world.